Personality-Disposition of Parents


Parental depression and anger are major causes for the development of

problems in the children. In most cases, maternal depression and father’s

anger are the commonest factors in the development of behavioural problems

in their child.


In today’s world, anxiety is a normal phenomenon. But if parents

habitually look tense and behave irrationally, that is not normal, and certainly

not in the eyes of their child.

Overanxious parents are often prone to have rigid and anger-linked

temperaments. Thus, the rigidity and anger in parents are the expressions

of their own deep-rooted anxieties and insecurities. As frustrations

accentuate, they indulge in, or fall prey to, different kinds of addictions and

psychological diseases, like, depression, and other ailments. The addictions

and psychological problems of an individual are clearly correlated to one’s

own temperament.

When Anxiety starts Dominating You



People with a lot of anxiety often ignore the sensitivity and feelings

of their child which arise as a consequence of their own temperament.

A child cannot have an omniscient view. He cannot adjust to his studies

while simultaneously facing parental problems. If you perceive your child’s

problems by considering them from the viewpoint of a third person, you will

find it easier to identify the problems he encounters every day.


An anxious person often lives in a regime of constant tension, worry

and uneasiness.

  • He is oversensitive in interpersonal relationships and frequently

considers himself unequal to the tasks, and gets depressed easily.

  • His decision-making tendency is low and poor. Every time he takes

a decision he becomes tense and worries constantly if he has taken a

wrong decision. Sometimes he seeks reassurance from other people.

  • He often suffers from loss of sleep (insomnia) because he is prone

to review all his events in his leisure time in a negative perspective.

He blames himself or others even for minor mistakes. Ultimately, he

spends sleepless nights and becomes the victim of depression.

  • A depressive person often either detaches himself from others or being

irregular at his normal activities, faces lots of personal, familial and

social problems.

  • He lacks problem solving and conflict management skills.

#A child who constantly

watches his role models in this state of anxiety is prone to develop an

insecurity which does not allow him to grow properly from the psychological

perspective. There are several parents who come with the problems of their

own child but, ultimately, end up narrating their own distressing problems.


Actually, intense fear is quite often related to one’s faulty learning

or conditioned fears which one might have gone through during one’s

childhood. The disturbed adjustment patterns of one’s own parents might

have had a great impact on one. If a parent does not confront his areas of problems and fears, he is

very likely to develop a tendency to avoid the feared situations and stresses

by developing various psychosomatic (mind and body) problems and

personality disorders. He becomes prone to try and gain sympathy, excessive

attention and meaningless support from others in order to escape from his

own personal or official responsibilities. This adopted behaviour makes his

life miserable which has a terrible impact on the family.


Obsession is an irrational thought process which, compels a person to perform the obsessed thoughts.

This, manifests itself in different forms: clinging repeatedly to a fear-inducing

thoughts which, consume one in its entirety or being completely

fixated on a certain irritant to the pitch of irrationality. These traits are easily

visible in one’s behaviour (repeatedly washing hands, cleaning, counting

numbers, checking locks, touching anything, etc., medically known as Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder). Generally, it does not

have much effect on his normal performance.

An obsessive parent is so much obsessed with his own ideas, thoughts

and actions that he hardly has time to supervise his child. Thus, the parents

who themselves lack the quality of self-supervision are less efficient in

supervising and monitoring their own child.


(‘Psycho’ refers to one’s mind and ‘Somatic’ refers to one’s body)

Psychosomatic disorders may be acquired and maintained for a long time.

These disorders are arising due to the arousal of emotional tension in

response to stress situations.

Arousal of emotions influences the autonomic nervous system of human

beings. Controlled emotions can control some of the responses voluntarily.

Parents who are depressed, find themselves helpless in solving the

problems around them and want to escape from their responsibilities; more

often, they take the help of psychological mechanisms by adopting the

various diseases which are broadly known as psychosomatic disorder.

If one stays in a state of depression or anxiety for a considerable period,

one will certainly start showing the signs of physical illness which has its

roots in one’s psyche. So, people should be careful and well informed so that

they can diagnose their illness and be their own doctor.

A number of health problems from mild to severe, like headache, ulcers,

migraine, high blood-pressure, heart-attack, even asthma is highly related to emotional reactions

and mainly governed by one’s psychological state.


Have a look at how chronic emotional stress becomes the reason for a

physical illness:

Headache and Migraine

Due to emotional stress muscles surrounding the skull contract and,

as a consequence of these contractions, headache occurs. This pain recurs

periodically at times of stress. So a person becomes restless and tends to take

the help of medication without evaluating or reducing his cause of stress. So

do not panic! Assess your problem carefully and discover the ways to get

out of it.

Peptic ulcer

Worries, anger, anxiety, resentment and other negative emotional

state may stimulate the flow of stomach acids beyond what is needed for

digestion. If a person stays in stress for a long time the excess digestion acid

may eat into the gastric linings and cause ulceration. Do not rush to doctor;

examine the problems and check your stress.



In some cases, asthma is considered to be associated with severe stress

disorder. A person with asthma often fails to establish good interpersonal

relationships and is also prone to failure in handling emotional issues. It is

always advisable to find out the root cause of the stress. Because several

accumulated and shocking stresses may cause an asthma attack. Deal with it

with the help of a reliable person.


The heart is the most sensitive organ to get affected by emotional stress.

Most people show alterations in blood pressure under stress. Thus, high risk

of developing chronic hypertension takes place when a person is under stress

or sustained stress.

Heart attack

It is related to the incidence of loneliness, sleep-disturbances,

nervousness, anxiety, depression, excessive working hours, and failure

in achieving life’s goals, problems related to family or other emotional

issues. People with diabetes and high blood pressure often face silent heart-breaking

problems due to their sensitivity to stress and inability to share

stress and anxiety. Mostly introverted people decline to share their problems

with others. It is essential for them to identify the underlying causes of their

hypertension and diabetes in order to save themselves from great loss.

Psychosomatic disorders cover a wide range of disturbances in which

life-stress plays a causal role. Thus anxiety, rigidity, anger and indiscipline

suggest complex personality characteristics due to the impact of negativity

on a person.

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