Parental depression and anger are major causes for the development of
problems in the children. In most cases, maternal depression and father’s
anger are the commonest factors in the development of behavioural problems
in their child.
In today’s world, anxiety is a normal phenomenon. But if parents
habitually look tense and behave irrationally, that is not normal, and certainly
not in the eyes of their child.
Overanxious parents are often prone to have rigid and anger-linked
temperaments. Thus, the rigidity and anger in parents are the expressions
of their own deep-rooted anxieties and insecurities. As frustrations
accentuate, they indulge in, or fall prey to, different kinds of addictions and
psychological diseases, like, depression, and other ailments. The addictions
and psychological problems of an individual are clearly correlated to one’s
When Anxiety starts Dominating You
SPOT YOUR ANXIETY AND ITS INFLUENCE ON YOU
People with a lot of anxiety often ignore the sensitivity and feelings
of their child which arise as a consequence of their own temperament.
A child cannot have an omniscient view. He cannot adjust to his studies
while simultaneously facing parental problems. If you perceive your child’s
problems by considering them from the viewpoint of a third person, you will
find it easier to identify the problems he encounters every day.
HOW STRESS UPSETS YOUR INNER MECHANISMS
An anxious person often lives in a regime of constant tension, worry
- He is oversensitive in interpersonal relationships and frequently
considers himself unequal to the tasks, and gets depressed easily.
- His decision-making tendency is low and poor. Every time he takes
a decision he becomes tense and worries constantly if he has taken a
wrong decision. Sometimes he seeks reassurance from other people.
- He often suffers from loss of sleep (insomnia) because he is prone
to review all his events in his leisure time in a negative perspective.
He blames himself or others even for minor mistakes. Ultimately, he
spends sleepless nights and becomes the victim of depression.
- A depressive person often either detaches himself from others or being
irregular at his normal activities, faces lots of personal, familial and
- He lacks problem solving and conflict management skills.
#A child who constantly
watches his role models in this state of anxiety is prone to develop an
insecurity which does not allow him to grow properly from the psychological
perspective. There are several parents who come with the problems of their
own child but, ultimately, end up narrating their own distressing problems.
WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN?
Actually, intense fear is quite often related to one’s faulty learning
or conditioned fears which one might have gone through during one’s
childhood. The disturbed adjustment patterns of one’s own parents might
have had a great impact on one. If a parent does not confront his areas of problems and fears, he is
very likely to develop a tendency to avoid the feared situations and stresses
by developing various psychosomatic (mind and body) problems and
personality disorders. He becomes prone to try and gain sympathy, excessive
attention and meaningless support from others in order to escape from his
own personal or official responsibilities. This adopted behaviour makes his
life miserable which has a terrible impact on the family.
Obsession is an irrational thought process which, compels a person to perform the obsessed thoughts.
This, manifests itself in different forms: clinging repeatedly to a fear-inducing
thoughts which, consume one in its entirety or being completely
fixated on a certain irritant to the pitch of irrationality. These traits are easily
visible in one’s behaviour (repeatedly washing hands, cleaning, counting
numbers, checking locks, touching anything, etc., medically known as Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder). Generally, it does not
have much effect on his normal performance.
An obsessive parent is so much obsessed with his own ideas, thoughts
and actions that he hardly has time to supervise his child. Thus, the parents
who themselves lack the quality of self-supervision are less efficient in
supervising and monitoring their own child.
(‘Psycho’ refers to one’s mind and ‘Somatic’ refers to one’s body)
Psychosomatic disorders may be acquired and maintained for a long time.
These disorders are arising due to the arousal of emotional tension in
response to stress situations.
Arousal of emotions influences the autonomic nervous system of human
beings. Controlled emotions can control some of the responses voluntarily.
Parents who are depressed, find themselves helpless in solving the
problems around them and want to escape from their responsibilities; more
often, they take the help of psychological mechanisms by adopting the
various diseases which are broadly known as psychosomatic disorder.
If one stays in a state of depression or anxiety for a considerable period,
one will certainly start showing the signs of physical illness which has its
roots in one’s psyche. So, people should be careful and well informed so that
they can diagnose their illness and be their own doctor.
A number of health problems from mild to severe, like headache, ulcers,
migraine, high blood-pressure, heart-attack, even asthma is highly related to emotional reactions
and mainly governed by one’s psychological state.
STAY COOL: CHECK YOUR PULSE!
Have a look at how chronic emotional stress becomes the reason for a
Headache and Migraine
Due to emotional stress muscles surrounding the skull contract and,
as a consequence of these contractions, headache occurs. This pain recurs
periodically at times of stress. So a person becomes restless and tends to take
the help of medication without evaluating or reducing his cause of stress. So
do not panic! Assess your problem carefully and discover the ways to get
out of it.
Worries, anger, anxiety, resentment and other negative emotional
state may stimulate the flow of stomach acids beyond what is needed for
digestion. If a person stays in stress for a long time the excess digestion acid
may eat into the gastric linings and cause ulceration. Do not rush to doctor;
examine the problems and check your stress.
In some cases, asthma is considered to be associated with severe stress
disorder. A person with asthma often fails to establish good interpersonal
relationships and is also prone to failure in handling emotional issues. It is
always advisable to find out the root cause of the stress. Because several
accumulated and shocking stresses may cause an asthma attack. Deal with it
with the help of a reliable person.
The heart is the most sensitive organ to get affected by emotional stress.
Most people show alterations in blood pressure under stress. Thus, high risk
of developing chronic hypertension takes place when a person is under stress
or sustained stress.
It is related to the incidence of loneliness, sleep-disturbances,
nervousness, anxiety, depression, excessive working hours, and failure
in achieving life’s goals, problems related to family or other emotional
issues. People with diabetes and high blood pressure often face silent heart-breaking
problems due to their sensitivity to stress and inability to share
stress and anxiety. Mostly introverted people decline to share their problems
with others. It is essential for them to identify the underlying causes of their
hypertension and diabetes in order to save themselves from great loss.
Psychosomatic disorders cover a wide range of disturbances in which
life-stress plays a causal role. Thus anxiety, rigidity, anger and indiscipline
suggest complex personality characteristics due to the impact of negativity
on a person.