In several cases, it was found that parents were worried about their
inability to fulfil the demands made by their children. The parents’ own
anxiety and frustrations may make the home environment depressing.
“It’s not possible for me to provide my child readymade food. When his
friends have this he easily gets upset and demands junk food or money…
and junk foods are so expensive…we can’t afford them.” This is a common
problem faced by parents. The junk food in varieties of eye-catching packets
(chips etc.) are becoming very popular day by day; a child gets attracted
easily and wants to have it immediately. Many parents adopt this culture like
a “status-symbol” and take it as if it were their prestige issue if they did not
buy the junk foods in loads. This makes them compulsive buyers.
On the other hand, parents who are financially incapable have guilty
feelings because they are not able to fulfil their child’s desires. Fulfilling a
child’s demand is a critical issue now-a-days. Parents who are sad because
they are not able to fulfil their child’s demands should not be unhappy, for
there are ways to solve any problem.
Parents who spend a lot on such things to make their child happy may
have to face different kinds of problems when he grows up. His demands
will increase from minor to major. They have to be careful while fulfilling
the demands. Moreover, their child develops an unhealthy food habit.
Surprisingly, I found that very few parents are worried about the concept of
“healthy food”. Eating out in hotels and restaurants and the readymade-food
culture are coming up so strongly that parents begin to develop an inferiority
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complex if they fail to follow this new trend. The parents’ own complex has
a definitive effect on their child.
How to solve the problem
Notwithstanding this, it is unfair to stop or quarrel over the issue of a
child’s desire to have junk food. If parents object or show their incapacity
to buy, they may induce an inferiority complex in their child because it is
a natural demand from a child. It is advisable to adopt a good as well as
a healthy method to fulfil his desires. Thus either providing in excess, or
depriving a child of the item for which he has a craving induces unhappiness
in him and, ultimately, he may try to get the things by hook or by crook.
Parents can cultivate a good habit in their child by making a healthy
rule. They can fulfil the demands of their child on every weekend with a
condition attached that he has to have regular healthy food on weekdays.
Here, parents can control their feelings of guilt, and a child also learns to
have good healthy food. Here the “junk food” becomes an incentive or game
as a reward, with a health condition attached, only if they have “healthy
food” six days in a week.
It is almost impossible to stop a child’s natural urge to have junk
foods but, at the same time, one can balance it by being more logical
and rational. This is the easiest way to solve this problem and make
a child happy and healthy. Moreover, it also teaches a child how to develop